It’s been an emotional couple of weeks. I’m starting to miss my ex. I mean, I know I did the right thing by breaking up with him, but then that loneliness settles in and you start to wonder if you made a mistake even when you know deep down inside that you didn’t. Does anybody feel me on this? Prior to dating my ex-boyfriend I was one of those people that celebrated my singleness. At that time I felt like I could go either way on the marriage thing because I had a full life and I was enjoying it very much. Then I got into a relationship. And realized that it was nice to have someone. And now I’m realizing that after having someone, the process of getting back into the mindset of being a happy single is a lot harder than I thought it would be. I’m finding myself more vulnerable to insensitive words from married folks, more vulnerable around office baby chatter, overall more sensitive to the fact that I am single in my 30s, a place that growing up I NEVER imagined I would still be.
BUT THIS BLOG POST IS NOT ABOUT BEING AN ANGRY SINGLE…
Today, I’m going to get myself out of this funk by reposting a blog I wrote 3 years ago on MySpace (before I got all high tech with the blogging and social networking and all)…It’s encouraging to know that in the midst of the frustrations of singleness, there is some good. Sometimes I think we all need a reminder that in the grand scheme of things, being single is not the worst thing in the world……Enjoy!
But in the meantime I figured I’d count my blessings and give my reasons why I can be thankful for singleness during this season of my life. So here it goes…
Top 15 Great Things About Being Single…
- On a beautiful day like today (Saturday) I can do whatever I want, even if it means doing absolutly nothing.
- My money is my money. I can do whatever I want with it–even if it’s pamper myself with a day at the spa–without having to think about how it’s going to affect someone else.
- I could move to California tomorrow if I wanted to, without having to “discuss” it with anyone.
- I can channel surf without having to be considerate of what someone else might want to watch.
- In my house, I’m the boss and what I say goes–’nuff said.
- When I make dinner I can usually eat off the leftovers for an entire week.
- There’s more Mayfield Birthday Cake ice cream for me!!
- My free time is for me. I don’t have to share myself with anyone else.
- I don’t have to deal with with someone else’s drama unless I choose to (‘cuz you know we all got drama).
- I get to enjoy moments of solitude more often.
- I’m free to live out loud and follow my dreams without any hindrances!
- When I take my twists out, I don’t have to worry about how wild and crazy my hair looks because I’m the only one that has to look at me.
- Whenever I get the urge to just sit on the edge of my bed and stare blankly into space, I don’t have to worry about someone interrupting my trance by asking me questions like “What’s wrong with you? Are you ok?”
- There’s no one to interrupt me while I’m blogging. π
- I can sing and dance throughout the house like nobody’s watching because nobody is!
Avril:
I love #6 and 12 but you forgot one. I can walk around the house in my birthday suit without someone thinking I have an ulterior motive.
LOL! That’s a great one!!!
Rock it girl. Praying God uses and speaks to you big time during this chapter of your life! Keep on Keeping on!
Thanks Eric!
Wow! Very well said I like 1-15 and agree with them all.
I feel you on the being venerable to married people, however the key to Singleness is to take that time to focus solely on the things of God I am single and was looking and wondering when my Mr. Right would come I was so caught up about it I would cry and feel like there is no one for me. After seeking God I found out what my purpose is and I have been going strong doing the things of God and striving to walk is my calling I realized I donβt have time to even think about it I thank God for when he come I will be prepared to Love him the way I am suppose to but right now I have WORK to DO
and I LOVE it!
OMG! You are in my head girl. This was sent straight down. The first few lines are me exactly. The right thing does not always feel so right but we gotta stand on something. Okay! Now it takes some kind of strong woman to sacrifice a relationship. I’ll be waiting for my “10 fold”
Be strong! You did the right thing. It’s easy to remember only the good things from the relationship when you start to feel lonely.
Love the list! I have a similar one here: http://singlegirlblog.wordpress.com/2009/01/27/the-list/. You forgot my favourite – sprawling out in a bed all to yourself!
I’ve had a long time of freedom and my relationships have been usually pretty short because the pressure to consummate the relationship often comes very quickly and then I’m outta there. 3-4 dates?? Are you kidding me??
I’m ready to be inconvenienced for a change!!
CHURCH! *literally* LOL But I am so feeling you. With me being in the twilight zone *11 engagements this year, 4 weddings this year, and 4 weddings next year, and babies galore* I completely understand your POV after coming out of a 3.5 year relationship last year and a “stint” this year.
I think for me.. the reason I keep looking past that feeling of being loney is just being to able to live on purpose. If I was involved in a “ship” then I would probably devote a lot of time to him without even realizing it. My purpose would be put on the back burner and if we are suppose to be living for God… thats just not a good look. So… I celebrate my singleness by realizing that I have the time to grow and live out my purpose.
And in reading what “Krys” said…lol I just realize that she said the same thing.. and its not the same “Krys.” π
I mean, inconvenienced by the other relationship stuff.
Thank you so much for posting this!!!
I love # 6,12, 13,14, 15!!!!!!!!